I love you... Sorry, I mean me.


Hey Guys,

So as you can tell from the title, this post is a little bit different to what you are used to.  After posting my Valentine's look last week and with Valentine's itself edging nearer, I thought I would publish this post as a little alternative to what might be expected.

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For me, love comes in different forms. I have the loveliest, most kind, honourable, does-the-dishes, cooks and cleans, husband in the whole world and I am really appreciative of him. He deserves a medal. The love I have for him is something else. We met when we were 16, got married at 23 and had our first baby at 25. So cards and flowers etc. are a nice token but we save up and do a few special date nights a year and we are planning to go away, just the two of us, at some point as we haven't both left the girls before. Time alone is really rare, but precious.

Then there is love for your children which blows my mind and my heart all at the same time. I never knew it would be so powerful. It can be an ache sometimes. Loving something so much it actually hurts. I never understood that feeling until I had the babas. I don't know if it's the worry that hurts, but it's some powerful stuff.

My love for friends and family is special. The people you can rely on, the people you can go for ages without talking to, but are always there, you know, in your heart. They are in your thoughts somewhere along the way, even daily, but you might not speak to them every day. 

The last one can be difficult and it's loving yourself. It's such a tricky one isn't it? The self doubt within us can sometimes get the best of us. Like an internal voice constantly wondering and questioning. I remember this voice and constant worry of what others were thinking of me was quite prominent in my teenage years. Was I good enough? Now I've gotten a bit older I've learnt to love myself a little bit more. I've realised how important me time is and am very mindful when it comes to how I am feeling. Since having my kids I've learnt to not care about what others think largely due to the fact that I need to practise what I preach. I have learnt to show myself some love, be it a pamper day or a break with the girls. I think this is what everyone needs to do this Valentine's, regardless of whether they are in a relationship or not.

My point is, Valentine's is not just for those loved up couples, but for best friends, mother and daughter, grandfather and grandson and all of us as individuals. We don't need someone to share it with. Of course it's lovely to spend a romantic day with a loved one, but there's nothing wrong with a bit of self care. Maybe writing yourself a card might be going a bit too far, although a few positive words wouldn't go amiss. But how about just indulging and thinking about all the great things about yourself. Go on, spoil yourself!

So whatever your thoughts are on Valentine's, be it love, hate or somewhere in between, I think it's really important to use Valentine's as an excuse to give yourself some love! I would love to know what you plan to do, if you are celebrating. Let me know in the comments below!

Amina xx


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