Thursday, 9 February 2017

I love you... Sorry, I mean me.

Hey Guys,

So as you can tell from the title, this post is a little bit different to what you are used to.  After posting my Valentine's look last week and with Valentine's itself edging nearer, I thought I would publish this post as a little alternative to what might be expected.

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For me, love comes in different forms. I have the loveliest, most kind, honourable, does-the-dishes, cooks and cleans, husband in the whole world and I am really appreciative of him. He deserves a medal. The love I have for him is something else. We met when we were 16, got married at 23 and had our first baby at 25. So cards and flowers etc. are a nice token but we save up and do a few special date nights a year and we are planning to go away, just the two of us, at some point as we haven't both left the girls before. Time alone is really rare, but precious.

Then there is love for your children which blows my mind and my heart all at the same time. I never knew it would be so powerful. It can be an ache sometimes. Loving something so much it actually hurts. I never understood that feeling until I had the babas. I don't know if it's the worry that hurts, but it's some powerful stuff.

My love for friends and family is special. The people you can rely on, the people you can go for ages without talking to, but are always there, you know, in your heart. They are in your thoughts somewhere along the way, even daily, but you might not speak to them every day. 

The last one can be difficult and it's loving yourself. It's such a tricky one isn't it? The self doubt within us can sometimes get the best of us. Like an internal voice constantly wondering and questioning. I remember this voice and constant worry of what others were thinking of me was quite prominent in my teenage years. Was I good enough? Now I've gotten a bit older I've learnt to love myself a little bit more. I've realised how important me time is and am very mindful when it comes to how I am feeling. Since having my kids I've learnt to not care about what others think largely due to the fact that I need to practise what I preach. I have learnt to show myself some love, be it a pamper day or a break with the girls. I think this is what everyone needs to do this Valentine's, regardless of whether they are in a relationship or not.




My point is, Valentine's is not just for those loved up couples, but for best friends, mother and daughter, grandfather and grandson and all of us as individuals. We don't need someone to share it with. Of course it's lovely to spend a romantic day with a loved one, but there's nothing wrong with a bit of self care. Maybe writing yourself a card might be going a bit too far, although a few positive words wouldn't go amiss. But how about just indulging and thinking about all the great things about yourself. Go on, spoil yourself!




So whatever your thoughts are on Valentine's, be it love, hate or somewhere in between, I think it's really important to use Valentine's as an excuse to give yourself some love! I would love to know what you plan to do, if you are celebrating. Let me know in the comments below!



Amina xx




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26 comments:

  1. Why is it that loving ourselves is so hard?!?! But you're absolutely right...the love for children is so unbelievably powerful and so unexpected!

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    1. I think it's just we are so quick to pick flaws in ourselves because we live with ourselves all of the time! Haha

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  2. Great post with beautiful images. Valentines day is celebrated very differently since I've had my children. I'm taking my 14 year old daughter to see dirty dancing at the cinema with my friend. Poor hubby is left with the noys! Lol

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    1. Yea I totally agree. I bought hubby a card and will be signing it from all three of us. Lol. But we do still try to do something special just the two of us. X

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  4. This is such a great post lovely, Valentine's day is definitely a day to share your love for family, friends and partners...and of I agree you should give some love to yourself too! Your photos look gorgeous! Hope you have a lovely Valentine's Day this tues xxx

    Tash | natashatodd.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thanks Tash! I plan on spoiling myself with some much needed relaxation! Hope yours is good too xx

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  5. I really agree with everything you said !! Celebrate for love nothing else !! Xxx

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  6. I love this post. I totally think we should starting making Valentine's Day about loving yourself...because if you don't love yourself you can't love anybody else...great post and thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub xoxo

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    1. Loving yourself if really important and I think the idea of not being able to love others if you don't love yourself could sefinitely be explored further. Thanks Talya xx

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  7. This was such a lovely post to read. Loves comes in all forms, shapes and sizes and we don't need one day to tell our significant others to tell them how we feel. Everyday should be like that!xxx

    Annie | www.musingsofamakeupjunkie.com

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    1. Yes I agree. Glad you liked it Annie x

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  8. I actually hate Valentine's Day ha ha, I just don't see the point surely we should love and show love all year round and not just for one day, I just think it's got so over rated over the years and expensive. But I agree with everything you said. Me and John might go out for lunch or something but that will be it xx

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    1. Awww that sounds nice. Yeah you definitely shouldn't do things just because Valentin's says so but I think a little token is nice xx

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  10. Such a lovely post! I think we tend to appreciate the little 'me time' more after having kids. At least I value it more now. As for the plans for the V day: we tend to club it together with our anniversary as it falls on the same month. We went out for a quiet lunch when the kids were at school:-)
    #ablogginggoodtime

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    1. Aww that sounds nice. I definitely agree about valuing the me time more! Thanks for commenting xx

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  11. It's good you take time with your hubs and for yourself. When I do I feel really odd being without the kids. Need more of it!

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    1. I know what you mean it does feel strange and we don't really get to do it often enough which makes it even more strange! x

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  12. Loving yourself is definitely the hardest! I'm getting better at it the older I get. My Mom has always given us valentines cards since we were little. Therefore I never thought of it as just a day for couples, and was never sad when I was single on valentines! I plan on giving my daughter valentines cards as she gets bigger, its good to have an extra excuse to tell your family you love them! #ablogginggoodtime

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    1. Would only let me post anonymously, I'm Blake from mommyandmadness :)

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    2. That's so nice your mum did that. I definitely feel like it's important to include the kids so I've written their daddy's valentine's card from all of us xx

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  13. Such a lovely post and so wonderful to hear you have been with your partner since you were 16, I'm 26 now and have been with my boyfriend since I was 15 and I'm still trying to get him to do the dishes! ha. Love your photos too, very pretty & creative. Sian x

    http://www.sianvictoria.com/

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    1. Thank you Sian! Yes it's a long time but because we have been together there's a closeness that is quite special which I'm sure you have with your other half too! x

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  14. Yes!! I totally agree with your post and showing people love including yourself. <3

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